Relationships among Believers
is the principle. The positional unity in the body of Christ is greater than
any differences (John 17:11, 20-22; Romans 12:4-5;
is the rule. Treat others as you desire God to treat you, in grace (1
Corinthians 13:4-7; Ephesians 4:1-3, 31-32;
1.3. Separation is necessary under certain conditions. Separate from those that undermine the authority and doctrine of the pastor/teacher (Romans 16:17-18), from those characterized by consistent and well known sin (1 Corinthians 5:9), and from those that are undisciplined busybodies (2 Thessalonians 3:6, 14-15).
1.4. Stand firm for Bible doctrine (2 Thessalonians 2:15; 2 Timothy 1:13; Jude 3).
can be resolved if those involved will learn, accept, and apply the same
Bible doctrine and so have the same thinking
2.1. Authority is the right and power to command, enforce, exact obedience, make decisions, and judge. The central issue in life is authority. There is authority in angelic and human life. Authority protects, regulates, and makes freedom possible. Authority is a part of the Laws of Divine Establishment.
God is the supreme authority. All creation is subject to His
authority (Psalm 103:19; 135:5-6; Isaiah 40:18-26; Daniel 4:25, 34-37;
The authority within the local church is the pastor/teacher
The authority in marriage is the man over the woman
The authority in the family is that of parents over children
The authority on the job is the owner or management
The authority within the nation is the king, constitution, president,
governor, and appropriate delegated authority such as the police officer,
teacher, or coach (Matthew 22:21; Romans 13:1-7;
3.1. Humility is a way of thinking about yourself in relation to God and others. Humility is rooted in the distinctions between God and man (Daniel 5:23; Philippians 3:21; James 1:9-11). Mankind ought to be humble because God created man. Godís creatures are under Godís authority and Plan. Godís creatures are also under creature limitations.
Humility is a mental attitude which Jesus Christ demonstrated and
which begins in the heart (Matthew 11:29; Acts 8:33;
3.3. Humility is the mental attitude that is required for right action within a group of believers (Philippians 2:2-5). Humility accepts the authority and organization that is necessary in any group, even the church.
3.4. Humility is the opposite of pride or arrogance (Proverbs 11:2; 29:23; Daniel 4:37; James 4:6; 1 Peter 5:5-6; 1 Corinthians 13:4).
When people reject authority, reject necessary organization, or
become proud they disrupt harmony in relationships with others (Numbers
16:1-35; Daniel 5:20-23; 1 Timothy 3:6; 1 Peter 5:5;
God planned that humility be a part of our lives (Ephesians 4:2):
toward God (1 Kings 21:29; 2 Chronicles 7:14; James 4:10;
Humility makes you teachable (James 1:21), makes spiritual growth
possible (Proverbs 22:4; Philippians 2:8; James 1:21), always precedes true
honor (Proverbs 15:33; 18:12; 1 Peter 5:6), and provides the capacity to
receive grace blessings (James 4:6, 10;
The believer ought to love God because He is perfect
Christian love (impersonal, source dependent) is toward all
believers. God is the source. It is taught by Bible doctrine. It is directed
to others without regard to their merit. It is commanded by God,
unconditional, directed toward all, strong stable (John 15:12, 17; Romans
13:8; 1 Corinthians 13:4-7; Galatians 5:22; 1 John 4:11). It is a product
(Galatians 5:22; Romans 5:5), a problem solver
True friendship love (personal, object dependent) is toward certain
people. It is conditional, changeable, directed toward a few, and optional.
It occurs because of qualities that are in common, liked, admired in the
object (Matthew 11:19; John 5:20; 11:3, 11, 36;
4.4. Marriage is a divine institution (whether a particular marriage was by Godís design and therefore according to Godís will or not). God designed compatibility is the practical issue. God has commanded the man to have Christian love (impersonal, source dependent) toward his wife. This protects his authority from becoming oppressive and ensures responsible leadership, protection, care. The woman is commanded to recognize his headship and authority in order to protect against rebellion thereby setting up the environment for orderly function (Genesis 2:18-25; 3:16; 24:14; Song of Solomon 5:16; 7:10; 8:6-7; Ephesians 5:22-23; Colossians 3:18-19).
5. Privacy, interference, talking, helpful interest:
Privacy means that one has the right to freedom from interference by
another in what is not anotherís concern, business, or right. Privacy does
not forbid friendliness, courtesy, or personal interest
Talking about others and judging others means verbal interference
into anotherís privacy. It includes saying something, true or untrue, that
may damage another person (Matthew 7:1-5; Romans 14:1-12;
5.3. Helping and taking an interest in another believer is an expression of the love spectrum. It means graciously offering assistance to a believer or graciously shouldering a pressure that is collapsing another believer (1 Corinthians 13:4-7; Galatians 6:1-5).
5.4. Interest without interference (John 21:21-22) means that you take a genuine interest in the welfare of another without judging, gossiping, or interfering in anotherís (1) life and opinions (Romans 14:1-13; James 4:11-12; Colossians 3:23), (2) ministry (1 Corinthians 4:1-7), or (3) sin (1 Peter 4:8; Matthew 7:1-5).
© Tod M. Kennedy, 1987